I've been celebrating Mother's Day since 2019. Mother's Day 2019, I was pregnant with our first son, Luca, and I was celebrating Mother's Day as a soon-to-be-mom. For Mother's Day 2020, I was celebrating as a Bereaved Mom because we lost Luca. By Mother's Day 2021, I was able to celebrate with my earth-side newborn baby, Enzo, delivered to us by our surrogate, Jennifer
For every single Mother's Day from here on out, I am reminded about who brought this honor to me. Another mother. A mother who loved her daughter so much that she wanted to make sure she could bring the same joy and love to another family. I get to celebrate this day with joy, rather than pain, because of surrogacy.
My journey in grief as a Bereaved Mother showed me the goodness in people that I had not noticed before. My journey in grief also allowed me to understand how powerful surrogacy is. Without my experience of loss, I don't think I could fully grasp the sacrifices that surrogates make to bring babies to this world. All surrogates are mothers and without them so many of us would not be.