Unfortunately not all families have the pitch perfect family idea of always smiling and supporting one another. Sometimes family can be a great source of both stress and frustration. Sometimes our main block and source of support does not exist and we are forced to seek it elsewhere. This doesnt mean they are bad people, but sometimes they arent as emotionally adept as they should be, and always end up causing harm. If that is the case. Keep the love from a distance, do your dues and obligations, but no need to get super close. It is not on you to fix other people who refuse to be fixed.