We share no blood, we don’t look alike, but this girl is my daughter in every single sense of the word. I love her and can’t picture my life without her.

i know i can’t fix anything, but i can be a comforting presence to you, if you let me in.

„What about the x children in foster care?“ or „Should we just let kids rot in foster care then?“. Let me lift the fog behind the question: Adoption is NOT a solution to an overcrowded and unethical foster system. You all are mixing two very different things. Adoption and foster care don’t go hand in hand simply because they have different goals. Frankly, I see 2 reasons why the foster system is overcrowded. 1. adoption and potential adopters don’t prioritize child care and well-being. And in adoptions, y’all certainly don’t care abt the kids in the foster system, unless there’s a chance at possessing them. That’s an issue because the foster care system was not intended to serve family building purposes aka the possession of children. 2. The foster care system is a “takes a village” kind of system that only works in a society that doesn’t strip children from their parents as punishment for the social injustice they suffer.

For whom tried to adopt, What are the common problems & challenges of adoption? Can I do it or it’s difficult?

When people tell me how lucky my children are, I offer a reply that upholds the girls’ dignity while acknowledging the complicated truth. ‘No,’ I say, ‘we are all blessed to have found each other.

I hate adoption, as a prospective birth mother will experience grief and loss. As much as a woman can prepare for placing a child for adoption, she will experience some degree of grief and loss after doing so.

I'm planning to adopt a child, any general advice? What do you think of adoption?

Dear adoptive parents, our adoption information doesn’t belong to you. Or does it? What are the implications? For documentation. Assessments. For posting pictures. And videos. Sharing about your struggles. And joys. Ours too. Is there a space for that kind of disclosure? Is there an age range where it’s appropriate? Or not? And who gets to decide whose story it is? Is there a power imbalance represented or sustained? Restored? It would make sense that some adoptees have trouble retrieving/claiming their information from their adoptive parents when our culture affirms distortions of these relationships over and over. In contrast, I wonder how things could change if the default narrative favored a child’s privacy and ownership over the adopter’s feelings and status. Just wondering along with y’all. What do you think?🎙